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Enter the Portal of Self-Love

Definition of portal
Merriam Webster

1 : door, entrance especially : a grand or imposing one

2 : the whole architectural composition surrounding and including the doorways and porches of a church

3 : the approach or entrance to a bridge or tunnel

Everyone stumbles upon the body positivity movement in their own way. Props to Lizzo for being a modern and hyper-visible voice, but shout-outs go, as well, to the LGBTQQIA umbrella family, tattoo and body art world, and sex workers, who all remind folks about the importance of autonomy and choice in presenting, describing, transforming, sharing, denying, withholding, and protecting our bodies as they are and as we want them to be.

Some people land on body positivity almost effortlessly. There are those that land on it as children – blessed with some kind of self-esteem compass that guides them through the dark times or looks and aesthetics that match the approval of the social norm. Some people find it emerging from the torture chamber many call adolescence. Others find it as intimate encounters turn into better relationships with one’s own body and movement, or as we encounter peers who teach us directly, and indirectly, other definitions of self-love.

For those who grew up watching stars like Jennifer Aniston, Jessica Alba or Halle Berry being praised as curvy, who watched and heard girls in our class participating in rituals associated with anorexia and bulimia at the same time as the rise in the waif aesthetic in Hollywood and Milan, and whose souls were shamed when outsiders commented on certain parts of their (our) bodies or the way clothing fit them (us), today’s era of visibility, as far as different kinds of bodies, is the oxygen mask many of us needed. Yes, there is room for additional representation and subversive attacks on auto-norming “thick/thicc” bodies, – such as only featuring plus-sized models with flat stomachs and round hips despite bellies, guts, and fupas being common in women wearing similar sizes.

I am one of those people who grew up taking in, internally battling, and, to this day, working to fight the demons singing toxic songs about better bodies, inept beauty, acceptability, and respectability. But I scored a victory, recently, when I walked through a digital doorway and entered a new world, from which I haven’t turned back since: The Pink Portal. I think I know the person who posted the first announcement or promotion I saw. I think. Either way, as Merriam Webster describes in one of its definitions, portal means “the approach or entrance to a bridge or tunnel,” and this couldn’t be truer of the black women-owned lingerie shop. From the moment I saw the first graphic, I saw thighs that looked mine – or that of my friends and family members – breasts that fit bras and bodysuits in ways similar to mine – or that of my friends and family members – and intimate-wear outfits, makeup, and styling choices that reflected those I sometimes choose – or those chosen by friends and family members.

Like walking into a family reunion or popping up at a homie’s cookout, arriving at The Pink Portal page has a unique way of hugging you with a sense of familiarity, while also beckoning you to take bigger strides in loving yourself. It is because of this very personal reason that I have decided to use 3 AM IS THE NEW BLACK to highlight the work they’re doing, the product they’re selling, and the event where you can see it all for yourself. Enter the portal, and join the founders, models and supporters for “The Pink Portal Experience,” a gathering that will “showcase pieces and styles from [their] collection as well as other designers and boutique owners.” The event is scheduled for September 24, 2021, from 7:30-10:30pm in Providence. Tickets are available through Eventbrite (https://bit.ly/2WNalXp) or using the attached QR Code.

Browse their merchandise and read testimonials on www.thepinkportal.com. And follow @3amblack on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook all month long to follow our partnership with The Pink Portal, and to catch fun tidbits leading up to their September 24 event.

Sunshine and laughter,

Reza Rites, Publisher/Editor, 3 AM IS THE NEW BLACK

#RezaRites #3AmBlack #ThePinkPortal #SelfLove #BlackGirlMagic #CarefreeBlackGirl #BodyPositivity #fashion #Providence #RhodeIsland #NewEngland

New Partnership Announced: The Pink Portal and 3 AM IS THE NEW BLACK

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It’s the first of the month, which means different things to different people. For us here, at 3 AM IS THE NEW BLACK, September 1 signifies the launch date of a new partnership we are happy to announce: a Media Sponsorship supporting and extending outreach for The Pink Portal. The Pink Portal is a Black woman owned company specializing in lingerie and adult wear with sizes for all – and models fully reflecting the inclusive catalogue and culture of the company. You can find The Pink Portal across social media sites, and on the world wide web at www.thepinkportal.com. Or see the action and feel the love in person on September 24 at “The Pink Portal Experience,” which is an event to “showcase pieces and styles from [their] collection as well as other designers and boutique owners.” The event is scheduled from 7:30-10:30pm in Providence.

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All month long, here and across #3amblack spaces, we will highlight The Pink Portal, learning more about the founding and vision of the company, meeting models and hearing from Remi N – co-owner and “HBIC” of The Pink Portal – and sharing exclusive looks during the lead-up to the event. To activate the Critical Social Discourse tenet behind 3 AM IS THE NEW BLACK, we will also be highlighting other activists, spaces, and campaigns advocating for body positivity, Black business ownership, women entrepreneurs, and shame-free sensuality and sexuality.

Purchase your ticket or learn more about the September 24 event by visiting their Eventbrite page at https://bit.ly/2WNalXp. Or use the attached QR Code. Browse their merchandise and read testimonials on www.thepinkportal.com. Follow @3amblack on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook to follow our partnership with The Pink Portal, and for fun tidbits leading up to their February 24 event.

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Sunshine and laughter,
Reza Rites, Publisher/Editor, 3 AM IS THE NEW BLACK

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New Partnership Announced: The Pink Portal and 3 AM IS THE NEW BLACK

It’s the first of the month, which means different things to different people. For us here, at 3 AM IS THE NEW BLACK, September 1 signifies the launch date of a new partnership we are happy to announce: a Media Sponsorship supporting and extending outreach for The Pink Portal. The Pink Portal is a Black woman owned company specializing in lingerie and adult wear with sizes for all – and models fully reflecting the inclusive catalogue and culture of the company. You can find The Pink Portal across social media sites, and on the world wide web at www.thepinkportal.com. Or see the action and feel the love in person on September 24 at “The Pink Portal Experience,” which is an event to “showcase pieces and styles from [their] collection as well as other designers and boutique owners.” The event is scheduled from 7:30-10:30pm in Providence.

All month long, here and across #3amblack spaces, we will highlight The Pink Portal, learning more about the founding and vision of the company, meeting models and hearing from Remi N – co-owner and “HBIC” of The Pink Portal – and sharing exclusive looks during the lead-up to the event. To activate the Critical Social Discourse tenet behind 3 AM IS THE NEW BLACK, we will also be highlighting other activists, spaces, and campaigns advocating for body positivity, Black business ownership, women entrepreneurs, and shame-free sensuality and sexuality.

Purchase your ticket or learn more about the September 24 event by visiting their Eventbrite page at https://bit.ly/2WNalXp. Or use the attached QR Code. Browse their merchandise and read testimonials on www.thepinkportal.com. Follow @3amblack on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook to follow our partnership with The Pink Portal, and for fun tidbits leading up to their February 24 event.

Sunshine and laughter,
Reza Rites, Publisher/Editor, 3 AM IS THE NEW BLACK

Post 27, Write Here

#3amblackpoetry in July (August)
Post 27: Write Here
Post 27, 2020: Dichotomous Dictums

#3amblackpoetry in July? On August 1?! As I said in yesterday’s #3amblackpoetry in July post, a promise is a promise, and I promised myself I’d hit 30 posts and 30 days of writing activities in/for July. With this being 27, there are only 3 more left, and I’m not giving up just because publishing the remaining posts don’t align with Western, linear concepts of time. No matter how many instances I appear to comply, know that there is no external clock or calendar determining my destiny; I set, stop, and reset the stopwatch of my life. Now, call this cocky, call this bravado, or call it presumptuous, but I articulate this otherwise private belief because it mirrors my approach to writing, and reminds me of today’s prompt: “Write Here.”

I know that in previous posts I’ve urged and shared reminders to stop second-guessing oneself while in the middle of writing – or before even starting. But like the tips I share with other teachers and community organizers, I want to make sure I include not just the negative framing (don’t do this, stop doing this), but also the affirmative and action-centric framing (do this, try this, include this)? “Write here” is one solution or strategy of mine – and somewhat of a mantra. Where are you jotting your notes? They can be anywhere and everywhere, but they should be somewhere! Are you reacting to something or overflowing with some kind of sentiment? Is your cellphone with notes app handy so can you jot it down there, or can you compose an email draft? Yes, the brain is a powerful and often reliable place to store information, but somehow the fingertips are too!

However, I don’t just want to talk about process; I want to elaborate a little on the topic of content and idea generation. More specifically, I need you to stop erasing ideas and first sentences. I’m not saying don’t proofread or edit; what I am saying is that where something goes, how wide something reaches, and writing “The End” simply cannot happen without staying the course on an idea, word or sentence. 

For inspiration, consider a piece I wrote called “Badly Boujee,” the link for which is included as part of today’s post. Badly Boujee is now also a SONG with beats and engineering by Mike Delick, and lyrics AND VOCALS by me! It all started with the song “Bad and Boujee” and realizing how much I loved the syncopated and staccato-style rapping the performers (Migos and Lil Uzi Vert) display on the track. I mean listening even today, I dig it! One day, during a writing challenge like this, I tapped into my feelings of admiration and decided to write a poem that was partial tribute and partial (respectful) mimicry – embracing the dichotomous dictums that freed me up to not second-guess the presence or source of my zeal (commercial rappers sharing the same type of lyrical content that raises concern for many, as far as women, proximity to crime, etc.). I had no intentions of actually making it a song, but that’s not my point. There wouldn’t be a song, or poem to turn into a song, if I hadn’t tapped into what was inside, and said, “let me go ahead with this idea, and just write here.”

Happy writing y’all!

Badly Boujee
https://soundcloud.com/rezaclif/badly-boujee

Bad and Boujee
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#3amblackpoetry in July
Post 26: Zest and Zeal
Post 26, 2020: Sedentary Sedition

A challenge is a challenge, but a promise is a promise. And a passion is a passion. Today’s #3amblackpoetry in July prompt, Zest and Zeal, is my reminder to you to embrace joy. If curating memes and sharing gifs are the things you love, openly enjoy the sedentary sedition. If dancing or hiking or yoga does it for you, make time for it. And if you’re writing, find your own way to the kingdom of zest and zeal. Maybe you get a thrill writing and completing drafts quickly, maybe you love writing outlines or character profiles, or maybe you love collaborating with photographers, artists or others during the process; make time for the step you love. A poem I want to share as part of today’s #3amblackpoetry in July post offers a brief meditation on the topic of what it might look like in the long run to include zest and zeal in your life – and to steal moments of sedentary sedition, from time to time, as well. Happy Writing!

POEM/AUDIO LINK:
https://soundcloud.com/rezaclif/the-woman-is-blue

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Yin and yang, sugar and spice, cowery shell earrings and gold septum rings. Friday lewks for fun, friends and funky vibes including my DOPE AF “writer” necklace courtesy of @melanin_sol_creations. Come at me bro.

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